It’s interesting. I am not sure if it is the weather, the change of seasons, or the transition of the Earth and Moon cycle, but every year at this time I seem to have more people reach out to me, than any other time. Friends, friends of friends, and families of those friends, come to me seeking spiritual advice. Asking me to reach out to loved ones on the other side. Hoping and praying for any kernel of connection to lost loves or spiritual understanding. Every year I find myself in the same place. How can I help them reach out to their loved ones? What strategies can I teach them so that they, themselves, can find that connection?
There are so many belief systems out there around this idea of spirit, connecting to spirit, gaining spiritual understandings. There are many perspectives and almost every medium will tell you something different depending on their own understanding and constructs. But the bottom line is, my dear friends, you can connect. Each of us is built with the ability and the capacity to connect with spirit. You see, I don’t hold some special key that only I have access to on the other side. No other spiritual medium, psychic, akashic record reader, shaman, or reiki master does either. WE ALL HAVE THE ABILITY AND THE CAPACITY TO CONNECT. How we do it, ways that we see, hear, or feel it, however, may all be different.
That being said, I am not giving you an end-all, easy opening toolkit that will definitely get you talking to your lost family members or your spiritual guides. Instead, I am giving you some insight into my mind's eye. Into the tools and strategies that I use to make that connection, turn it off if need be, and reconnect at my will. These are strategies that work for me, and, if you try them, I hope that they can work for you too. If not, in the least, they can help you relax, connect with yourself, and feel the love that the universe has for you.
Before you start, find yourself in a “quiet place.” Somewhere you feel safe and comfortable and in control. Clear your mind, have a journal or recorder with you, and dump out your thoughts. Literally, let go of any expectations, thoughts, or concerns. I use meditation music or coffee (lol) to get to my quiet place.
I always begin by grounding myself. I affirm that I am grounded, I am secure. I am safe. This is very important because it allows me to connect to my root and it establishes my boundaries. There is a need to feel the ground beneath me and to be centered with my surroundings. It gives me the sense of control that I need to keep me from feeling too much energy at once.
Once I have established my root, and set my feet in concrete so to speak, I ask for protection and for light and love to surround me. I ask for permission to connect to my guides and spirits, relaying that only those with positive intentions are welcome in my circle, my home, or in my space. I make the declaration that it is my hope to reconnect, teach, support, or relay loving messages to those on this side or the next.
Then I wait. I sit and I wait. With no expectations, I listen carefully to my surroundings, and with my third eye, I feel, I listen, I watch. Sometimes the message is discreet. Like a soft whisper in my thoughts. Other times it is loud, like something being moved near me. Most often, however, it is a gentle touch of a memory, a warm feeling in my heart, pictures in my head, words that come out as I write on paper, or a smell even. Other times, I don’t receive anything right away. It could be days later until I realize any connection, like a song that plays on the radio, or a stranger presents themselves with familiar words.
With that connection, and with any random ones that may come, I give my appreciation. It is important to acknowledge their presence, the love and light that is offered to us, and to say our thank you. In that, I am honoring them and my relationship with spirit, loved ones, and guides on the other side.
In your journey you will have many experiences. Listen carefully, live in the moment, spend time with quiet, and send your love and gratitude out and around you. You will find your connection. You will find your way.
If you find yourself in need of spiritual support or guidance, we are here for you. Connect with us, and we can help you connect. Blessings my friends.